Anal Sex, What you REALLY Need to Know (With no apologies to Teen Vogue)

I can’t believe I’m having to write an article with the above title. Yet, that’s were we are in America. The pro-gay lobby has so impacted the culture that a teen magazine, Teen Vogue, recently published an article called “Anal Sex: What you Need to Know” to help their young readers commit sodomy safely. The trouble is they didn’t tell them what they need to know, which is that there is no safe way to engage in this kind of behavior. I must warn you before you read further that I’m going to be blunt in this post and describe things that may be unsettling but it’s time for some of that in my opinion. For too long the discussion has been framed by those who willing to hide the ugly truth about homosexual behavior in order to promote an agenda. However, if you don’t want to read further, I’ll understand.

Let’s start with something very basic, something that needs to be said that virtually never is said: It is not possible for two men or two women to have sex. I don’t care what you’ve heard. The only option for two men or two women is sodomy. Sexual intercourse can only occur between people of the opposite sex. So the first thing you need to know about “anal sex” is that it’s not having sex. Calling it that is just another way the culture seeks to normalize homosexuality, like calling a homosexual relationship a “marriage.”

Secondly, as I said up front, there is no safe way to engage in this behavior. The lower intestinal tract is not designed to be an organ of copulation. When you force it into that role you risk damage to yourself even the very first time and you virtually ensure damage to yourself if you continue the behavior over the long term. You will damage your body if you engage in “anal sex” – it’s never safe.

John R. Diggs, Jr., M.D. wrote an article many years ago called “The Health Risks of Gay Sex” which is as true today as it was when written. Here is one of the things he says about this particular behavior:

With repeated trauma, friction and stretching, the sphincter loses its tone and its ability to maintain a tight seal. Consequently, anal intercourse leads to leakage of fecal material that can easily become chronic.

Put more simply, you can end up wearing a diaper because your rectum loses the ability to control your bowels. Doesn’t that make you want to dance around waving a rainbow flag?

Joseph Sciambra writing of his experience with homosexuality in San Francisco as a young man says as a result of anal intercourse he became plagued with painful bleeding hemorrhoids and eventually his rectum prolapsed and he bled every time he had a bowel movement. Years after he abandoned that lifestyle he still deals with the damage to his body:

Almost two decades after stopping such behavior, the most vicious joke has been on me – as today I am sometimes forced into adult protective undergarments.

Not only does it damage your body directly, anal intercourse is several times more likely than sexual intercourse to infect you with disease. The reason, again, is that this part of your body was not designed to be used this way. From Doctor Diggs:

…the intestine has only a single layer of cells separating it from highly vascular tissue, that is, blood. Therefore, any organisms that are introduced into the rectum have a much easier time establishing a foothold for infection than they would in a vagina.

As a result, anal intercourse makes one highly susceptible to a laundry list of infections:

Anal Cancer
Chlamydia trachomatis
Cryptosporidium
Giardia lamblia
Herpes simplex virus
Human immunodeficiency virus
Human papilloma virus
Isospora belli
Microsporidia
Gonorrhea
Viral hepatitis types B & C
Syphilis

Diggs points out that sexual transmission of some of these is virtually unknown in heterosexual populations. It is only when the lower intestine is used in a way for which it was not designed that you have them turning into “sexually” transmitted diseases. The danger of infection is not mitigated by using “protection” either. The stresses placed on the lower intestinal tract from this behavior can cause anal fissures, which are nothing but open doors for any infection that finds its way there whether from a partner or another source. Put bluntly, having an open wound in the area of your body where solid waste disposal takes place is a recipe for disaster.

I could go on. I suggest you read the entire piece written by Joesph Sciambra linked above as well as the article by Dr. Diggs – but I warn you, they’re not for the squeamish.

It’s time to for our culture look the sodomy they love so much in the face. If they’re going to promote it, we should insist they describe it as it is. It’s not rainbow flags and parades, it’s a doorway to pain, disease and even death in some cases and for a magazine like Teen Vogue to encourage young people to enter that world is unconscionable.

 

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The Real “Naked Truth”

Truth has fallen on hard times in recent decades. If there is one thing people in our culture want more than anything else it is to live in any way they choose – yet experience no adverse consequences for doing so. However, while we can choose to live in a way that ignores truth, we cannot choose to be free from the consequences of doing so.

I was reminded of this disconnect with regard to sex when I read a poignant article called “My ‘Naked’ Truth.” It is the account of a 59 year old woman who was rejected as a sex partner by the 55 year old man she met on the internet, and had known only a short while, because he thought her body was not attractive enough.

The woman rightly pegged the guy as a shallow jerk but what’s missing is a recognition of her own beliefs that contributed to the disappointing outcome. Sex, as does all of  God’s creation, has a purpose. Sexual intercourse is designed to be the ultimate expression of intimacy between a man and a woman and as such is reserved for the commitment of marriage. It is more than just a physical act, it is an act of both physical and spiritual oneness.  Phil Ryken describes it this way:

Sexual intercourse is the covenant cement that is designed to unite one man and one woman for life. But when sex is shared with the wrong person, at the wrong time, or for the wrong purpose, the wrong things get attached. After the bodies uncouple, souls are torn apart, and the best and deepest intimacy is squandered.

This woman was expecting to find the same oneness, acceptance, and intimacy in sex with a virtual stranger as can be found in sex with a life-long committed partner. It simply does not work that way. It is no accident that the biblical euphemism for sexual intercourse is “to know” the person. Sex, however, is the culmination of knowing someone, not the method of knowing someone.

This woman’s expectation that her short-term uncommitted boyfriend treasure her and be intimate with her in every sense of that word – in short, act like her husband – was just as misplaced and shallow as his expectation that his sex partners all be young and nubile.

God’s design for marriage, sex, everything is perfect. When pursued within the boundaries set by our Creator, sex is a wonderful thing. However, when we use it however we want, God’s design be damned, we should not expect to reap the benefits associated with its proper use. Truth can be ignored but the consequences of doing so cannot.

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. – Galatians 6:7